How We Support LGBT & Non-Binary On Fairytrail

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Recently, we received an email with some constructive feedback from a kind user who was LGBT. She expressed concerns about the queer friendliness of our app. 

We’re a really different kind of dating app and there are many things we do that are not orthodox. For example, we monetize on travel bookings (suspended due to covid and Apple). We charge a small entrance fee to keep our community safe from bots and scammers. We humanize online dating by limiting your active matches to 12. We encourage you to explore the world by recommending places and adventures for you and your match to discover together. 

Some have called Fairytrail the most wholesome dating app ever. 

But how are we supporting LGBT and gender fluidity? 

Non-binary Genders

Non-binary is used to describe people who feel their gender cannot be defined within the margins of gender binary. They understand their gender in a way that goes beyond simply identifying as either a man or woman. 

On Fairytrail, you can only choose man or woman at the moment. The reason is all users who use Fairytrail must choose a character. Choosing a character ties to a core Fairytrail mission to make dating less superficial. We want to capture and elevate personality in online dating.

It’s impossible to delineate a person who has needs, values, views, traits, preferences, and temperaments (often which are changing) in just an online profile. Even dating for six weeks can only reveal so much.

That’s why most people are so focused on looks because photos can depict it so well. (We made a video about it.) 

That said, we are doing better than most dating apps when it comes to making online dating less superficial. We leverage these characters to give insights into someone’s personality and identity.

All characters are mapped to MBTI and Enneagram types. If you don’t know anything about personality MBTI, these archetypes can still give you cues on people’s personality and identity. 

We haven’t quite cracked how to do this with fairytale characters yet, and as a startup, we have limited Product, Design, and Engineering resources to tackle this. If this is an area you feel passionate about, please do reach out to us at team@fairytrail.app. Any help would greatly be appreciated!

Alternatively, it would be super fun to create just a non-binary or LGBT version of Fairytrail. We’ve also gotten many requests for us to make a friends only version and a couples version. There are so many traveling couples! Sadly, we haven’t had the resources to work on those either. 

LGBT

LGBT describe people’s sexual orientation or gender identity. LGBT includes lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.

U.S. adults estimate that nearly one in four Americans (23.6%) are gay or lesbian, and studies find an estimated 3.5% of adults in the United States identify as lesbian, gay, or bisexual and an estimated 0.3% of adults are transgender.

Historically on most dating apps, they ask you what’s your sexual orientation. 

On Fairytrail, LGBT sexual preferences are supported behind the scenes. 

No need to tell us your sexual orientation. We can easily infer this based on your search preferences and only show you someone who might like you back. For example, if you’re a homosexual female, you would be seen only by homosexual and bisexual females.

Sexual Preferences Matrix

Fairytrail Sexual Preferences Matrix

We try to save people’s time, so try to optimize where we can and don’t like explicitly asking for things we can infer. 

If you have suggestions for improving our LGBT friendliness or want to help, please get in touch with us! We’re always looking to improve.

 

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Gifting Your Children Vacations Instead of Toys Can Lead to Advanced Brain Development

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Stressing about holiday gifts and looking for alternatives to expensive toys for your children? We have exciting news for you. Gifting your children experiences coupled with bonding time might be better for their soul and mind rather than breakable toys! 

 

In 2017, The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships surveyed close to 500 women between 18 and 93 years old and published a study. The women were asked to answer the question, “Most people feel loved when … ” — and guess what? The most popular answers had nothing to do with receiving tangible items.

 

“Our research found that micro-moments of positivity, like a kind word, cuddling with a child or receiving compassion make people feel most loved,” — Dr. Zita Oravecz, Human Development and Family Studies Professor at Pennsylvania State University, one of the study’s authors — told NPR.

 

Britain’s best-selling psychological author, Oliver James, in a conversation with The Telegraph asks “Do you have any idea what an extraordinary proportion of presents we give children aren’t actually wanted or valued?” 

 

“Give a 2-year-old a present and she’ll get absorbed in the box instead. It’s similar with children and travel. We should let them explore their own ways of finding wonder in their surroundings,” James advised.

 

A British child psychologist, Dr. Margot Sunderland, wrote a piece for The Telegraph in 2017. “Aside from a potential boost to long-term happiness, vacations can make children smarter. What is less widely known is that vacations can also advance brain development in children. This is because, on a family vacation, you are exercising two genetically ingrained systems deep in the brain’s limbic area, which can all too easily be ‘unexercised’ in the home.”, writes Dr. Margot.

 

“These are the PLAY system and the SEEKING system (Panksepp 2016),” Sunderland adds, explaining that the brain’s PLAY system “is exercised every time you bury your child’s feet in the sand, tickle them on the pool lounger, or take them for a ride on your back. The SEEKING system is exercised each time you go exploring together: the forest, the beach, a hidden gem of a village.”

 

“So when you take your child on a vacation, you are supporting their explorative urge (SEEKING system) a vital resource for living life well, and their capacity to play (PLAY system). In adulthood, this translates into the ability to play with ideas — essential, for example, to the successful entrepreneur,” she added.

 

According to James, it’s worth noting that vacations “remove us, physically, from our highly pressured everyday lives where everyone’s focused on meeting targets. They are times when everyone can relax and be playful together.”

 

“This collaborative playtime — devoid of solo-focused toys and technology — is a crucial human experience, for children especially, but for adults too. Without it, life is very empty and lacking in joy,” he added.

 

About the pros of traveling with younger ones, James added – “Children see the world differently. Through consumption, for example, The way that French cafés have Orangina instead of Fanta is fascinating to kids, and details like that will stick with them for long after the vacation ends.”

 

When you travel, you gain richer experiences, create deeper relationships, and make memories that will be a source of happiness and stay with you forever. Read more about how traveling helps build relationships here.

Written by Taige Zhang
Founder of Fairytrail

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Personality Types of Female Fairytale Characters

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On Fairytrail, we use fairytale characters to help people quickly understand your identity and personality. But which character to choose? 

Read about the personalities below or look up your MBTI or Enneagram to find the character that most closely represents you. If you don’t know your MBTI or Enneagram, you can take a free test  here.  

We have 8 female Fairytrail characters.

Ariel

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The Little Mermaid by Hans Christian Andersen // Denmark

ENFP (Extroverted. Intuitive. Feeling. Perceiving)
Enneagram Type 7 (Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, and Scattered)

Curious, energetic, fun-loving, creative, visionary, free-spirited.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou 

People with the ENFP personality type value independence and freedom above all else. When presented with a life of routine, stability, security, they are quick to move past it. More than security, they value adventure and freedom. They also place great value in their social relationships. 

Free-spirited and inquisitive, she cannot help but question her upbringing; the plans and traditions which her family has set out for her. She has a boundless curiosity for the unknown world. Her collection of ‘thingamabobs’ is a perfect showcase of this.

She yearns to explore; to see the world unseen. At every step of her story, she follows her heart, even in the face of risk and adversity. She throws caution to the wind and pushes past doubting voices; always moving forward in pursuit of her dreams.

Famous people that are ENFP’s: Jennifer Aniston, Cher, Amy Schumer, Ellen Degeneres

 

Belle

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Beauty and the Beast by Jeanne-Marie Leprince de Beaumont // France

INFP (Introverted. Intuitive. Feeling. Perceiving)
Enneagram Type 4 (Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental)

Thoughtful, imaginative, compassionate, idealistic, caring, intellectual.

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

INFPs are both blessed and cursed with an extraordinary imagination. Their imagination allows them to see the world in creative and unique ways, but can also alienate them from those who don’t share the same perspective as they misunderstand.

They are able to effortlessly see the true potential in people and situations. They can see the best in others and help them realize their potential. At their core, they believe that people are good, or at least have the ability to be. 

Belle embodies these traits naturally. She’s constantly reading books, expanding her mind and point of view. Her creative thinking and big ideas do lead to her isolation from the surrounding villagers, but she is not dissuaded by being different. In addition to being intelligent and creative, she is very open-minded.

While many would run away from the Beast in fear and disgust, she is able to see deeper. She sees past appearances, past judgments, and assumptions. Looking straight into his soul, she sees his potential for good. INFPs, more than anyone else, know how to bring the best out of people.

 

Famous people that are INFP’s: Sarah MacLachlan, Emily Blunt, Jude Law, Mia Farrow

 

Cinderella

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Cinderella by Charles Perrault // France

ISFJ (Introverted. Sensing. Feeling. Judging) & INTP (Introverted. Intuitive. Thinking. Perceiving)
Enneagram Type 9 (Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent)

Kind, reserved, loyal, considerate, resourceful, responsible, realistic.

“When you love someone, when you care for someone, you have to do it through the good and the bad. Not just when you’re happy and it’s easy.” – Lauren Olivier 

Have you ever known someone who was admirably humble and kind? Perhaps to a fault? It’s possible they could be ISFJ or INTP. These folks are often responsible, reliable, and dependable. What’s more, is that they are extremely humble in regards to their knack for dependability. 

They see it as their duty to keep their promises and maintain their responsibilities. They fulfil their promises with the utmost kindness towards those in their lives. ISFJs and INTPs are intrinsically motivated to care for and help others. Anyone who is friends with an ISFJ or INTP will recognize this sense of selflessness that these people exude, and should count themselves lucky to have someone like that in their lives. ISFJs and INTPs are also full of enthusiasm and loyalty but seldom talk of these traits.

Cinderella had every reason to look at her situation with negativity; to relinquish any sense of hope, and to give in to the defeating feeling of despair. Despite how terribly she is treated by those in her family, she is always able to act in compassion and kindness. No matter what misfortune happens, she is ready to bounce back with positivity and joy. 

 

Famous people that are ISFJ’s: Anne Hathaway, Gwyneth Paltrow, Kate Middleton, Beyoncé

Famous people that are INTP’s: Tina Fey, Ellen Page, Kate Moss, Harper Lee

 

Jasmine

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Aladdin from the Arabian Nights // Middle East

ESFP (Extroverted. Sensing. Feeling. Perceiving) & ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving)
Enneagram Type 2 (Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive)

Enthusiastic, spontaneous, encouraging, refined, perceptive, social.

“We were made to enjoy music, to enjoy beautiful sunsets, to enjoy looking at the billows of the sea and be thrilled with a rose that is bedecked with dew…Human beings are actually created for the transcendent, for the sublime, for the beautiful, for the truthful…and all of us are given the task of trying to make this world a little more hospitable to these beautiful things.” – Desmond Tutu 

ESFPs and ESTPs are easy to spot. They like to make their presence known. And once you do notice them, you’ll often find yourself drawn in by their magnetic personality. They love to be the life of the party, the center of attention and want to share that energy with everyone around them. You’ll always find them speaking directly and bluntly; they have no time or energy to be passive-aggressive. 

They have a strong appreciation for aesthetics and beauty. This leads to an impeccable fashion sense. They love to experiment with different styles and designs in their quest to express themselves fully. 

ESTPs and ESFPs love a challenge and will meet that challenge head-on. Jasmine is a strong ESFP/ESTP, both by nature and circumstance. Her lifestyle as a princess led to plenty of extravagant parties. She exudes glamour in everything she does; her clothes, friends-she even has a pet tiger!

Jasmine has a strong desire to be herself. She’ll always speak her mind, even if it means disagreement and conflict. Jasmine longs for adventure, fun, and to be herself. With her quick wit and bravery, she’s able to pursue her goals with ease.

 

Famous ESFP’s: Dolly Parton, Miley Cyrus, Cameron Diaz, Judy Garland

Famous ESTP’s: Meryl Streep, Amy Winehouse, Milla Jovovich, Judi Dench

 

Mulan

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Traditional Chinese story of Hua Mulan // China

ISTP (Introverted. Sensing. Thinking. Perceiving)
ISTJ (Introverted. Sensing. Thinking. Judgement)
Enneagram Type 1 (Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic)
Enneagram Type 5 (The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated)

Bold, practical experimenters, practical, fact-minded.

“I wanted to live life, a different life. I didn’t want to go to the same place every day and see the same people and do the same job. I wanted interesting challenges.” – Harrison Ford

A call to action and exploration is natural for the ISTP and ISTJ types. They would rather dive into a task immediately and learn through trial and error than spend time pondering and analyzing. Action in the physical world is more meaningful to them than thoughts and feelings.

The sentiment that it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission is likely to resonate with ISTPs and ISTJs. This can get them in trouble as it might mean breaking some rules, but the rules they break are often for worthy causes.

Mulan’s story of leaving her home to learn to be a soldier is also the story about her growth into her ISTP/ISTJ nature. She truly values her family and country, she would do basically anything for them — including dress up like a guy and joined the army in her father’s role.

She does struggle initially in training, but over time she learns quickly and turns out to be a competent soldier. Even before leaving for the war, she had a fear that she would live out her life as a housewife. For Mulan, the traditional gender roles of caregiver and nurturer didn’t fit her inborn ISTP/ISTJ nature of physical action and exploration.

 

Famous ISTP’s: Scarlett Johansson, Demi Moore, Venus Williams, Amelia Earhart, Kristen Stewart

Famous ISTJ’s: Julia Roberts, Condoleeza Rice, Jackie Joyner-Kersee, Danica McKellar

 

Pocahontas

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Pocahontas by John Smith // America

INFJ (Introverted. Intuitive. Feeling. Judging)
Enneagram Type 4 (Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental)

Decisive, altruistic, determined, creative, sensitive.

“Some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all — in which case, you fail by default.” – J.K. Rowling

The INFJ type is the least common out of all MBTI personalities. When they do show up, they have the potential to cause great change. Their gift is that they not only have big dreams, they also have the fire and drive to realize those dreams. Often they find themselves pulled to help those who have fallen on misfortune or are otherwise suffering. They are happiest when they can see the positive change they are affecting in the world.

Pocahontas lived through an extremely challenging time for herself and her tribe. Europeans had arrived on their land, and the war was imminent. As the chief’s daughter, Pocahontas assumed a great moral responsibility of preventing the conflict. She had a dream and vision that everyone could be peaceful, and that war was not needed. She knew that the only solution was love and compassion, and worked tirelessly to make her vision of peace a reality.

 

Famous people with INFJ type personalities: Taylor Swift, Cate Blanchett, Jane Goodall, Simone de Beauvoir

 

Rapunzel

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Rapunzel by the Brothers Grimm // Germany

ESFJ (Extroverted. Sensing. Feeling. Judging)
Enneagram Type 2 (Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive)

Loyal, sensitive, popular, practical, outgoing, sociable.

“I think love is the through-line and it’s universal and it doesn’t matter what period of time, time or place, or people, that’s something we all connect to. That’s the thin thread that I think keeps it all together.” – Rachel McAdams

Remember the lead cheerleader in high school? The star quarterback? The chances are, they were probably an ESFJ. People from this type are extremely sociable and outgoing. They love to organize social events and are often happiest when laughing and gossiping with their friends. They are naturally skilled at connecting with others, even strangers. Always ready with a warm smile, ESFJs will brighten your day whether you like it or not.

We can see her people skills in action when she is able to befriend a group of aggressive thugs by encouraging them to follow their dreams. We also see her pain as an ESFJ who doesn’t have people to talk with. She gets around this by having conversations with herself in the mirror. It may seem eccentric, but for an ESFJ, not having anyone to engage with is a true struggle.

 

 

Famous ESFJ’s: Jessica Biel, Sarah Jessica Parker, Nancy Kerrigan, Whitney Houston

 

Aurora (Sleeping Beauty)

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Sleeping Beauty by Charles Perrault // France

ISFP (Introverted. Sensing. Feeling. Perceiving)
Enneagram Type 9 (Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent)

Artistic, introverted, sensitive, romantic, imaginative, passionate.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

Adventure and exploration are important for ISFPs. They are naturally curious and able to view parts of the world which most others might deem ordinary as novel. They are able to see the extraordinary in the ordinary. ISFPs revel in aspects of life that many take for granted by uncovering the novelties hidden underneath.

Sensitive and kind, Aurora is used to spending time alone, and read books, but she actually doesn’t mind being alone. Aurora has this same love of life and taste for adventure. Unfortunately, her parents are quite protective and aren’t keen on her doing too much exploration. Even so, she makes the most of what he has. She loves to take walks out in nature and pick flowers. Though some might consider this boring, her ISFP tendencies allow her to see the beauty in seemingly simple things.

Famous people that have ISFP personality types: Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Rihanna, Jessica Alba

 

Conclusion

So who did you get for your character?

By the way, now that you’ve determined your character, you’re officially allowed to enter Fairytrail, a matchmaking app for travelers and remote workers where you can discover new people, cultures, and places.

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Why We Have Characters From Folklore On Fairytrail

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Why do we have characters from folklore on Fairytrail?

Widely-recognized characters mapped to Myers Briggs and Enneagram types are used to elevate personality in online dating. The can help you date more effectively. 

 

1. To elevate personality.

It’s very hard to know what someone is like as a person from their online profile. Who someone chooses as their character on Fairytrail says a lot about their personality and identity. Each character is mapped to MBTI and Enneagram types.

 

2. To help you understand who you have chemistry with. 

Characters also help you understand which personality types you have chemistry with. Had a great video chat with someone? Check their character. Hmm… Robin Hood. Maybe you have a thing for guys who prioritize kindness. 

 

3. To help you search more effectively. 

Many dating apps let you search for people based on age, ethnicity, etc. but what about the thing that really matters in a relationship, your partner’s identity, and personality? On Fairytrail, you get to search for that.

 

Who should you choose?

Female Characters

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Male Characters

 

Lastly, we love culture and fairy tale stories are rich in culture.

They are seen across nations and cultures: Native American folklore, Chinese myths, Icelandic legends, African fables, and German fairy tales. At Fairytrail, we are intensely curious about people, places, and cultures. Fairytales, folklore, fables, parables, and stories are what make us human. 

 

“Stories and sayings define cultures.”
– Ben Horowitz, What You Do Is Who You Are

 

Stories are how cultures, languages, and values are passed down. It is what makes us who we are. Learn more

 

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Fairytrail is a travel adventure dating app that connects single travelers on group journeys and activities. Its mission is to help people explore the world’s cultures and places with someone they like.

Book Adventures With Someone You Like

 

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